Parent Coach: Teaching Children and Parents How Self-Awareness Can Improve Relationships


Honolulu (KHON2) – Parenting Coach Karen Gibson shares tips for teaching children and parents how self-awareness can improve relationships.

“Johari’s Window is a psychological tool that helps people better understand their own personalities and their relationships with others,” says parenting coach Karen Gibson. “The 4 quadrants are: open space, blind spot, hidden zone and unknown zone.”

Open Self: Traits known to you AND known to others.

Blind Self: Traits unknown to yourself BUT known to others.

Hidden Self: Traits known to yourself BUT unknown to others.

Unknown Self: Traits unknown to yourself AND unknown to others.

To teach Johari’s Window, ask your child:

How do they think others see them? Maybe they feel like others see them as shy.

After asking how a friend sees them, they may find that they had no idea their friends saw them in a certain way. There are certain traits that they can hide from others because they want to keep those traits a secret. These self-reflective questions provide insight and families might begin to better understand the personality traits of their siblings, which will impact how they communicate with each other.

Gibson adds, “Self-awareness helps children think and reflect on their actions and behavior, as well as step back and consider what others are going through in their environment. Self-awareness helps children learn from their mistakes, better accept criticism, listen to and understand the feelings of others.

Families can access Johari’s Window Assessment online.


The Parent Coach invites everyone to take the assessment and asks their friends and family to choose 5 or 6 adjectives that describe them. Seeing the overlap and differences will give insight into how they handle certain situations and learn how to avoid personality clashes.